A Serious Misconception about Utahrds

People in Utah, have a reputation for being very polite.  To this, I scream total and complete bullshit.

I have had maybe all of two people acknowledge (i.e. thank) that I held the door open for them.  I have also had countless doors not held for me.

Maybe it’s because I’m not part of an inner circle, or secret society, but the lack of ‘thank you’s’ in these parts, are inexcusable.  I have a group of relatives who I am more than ready to break up with.  I had them over to my parents house for a barbecue, my first weekend here.    I bought a lot of food, spent most of the day cooking, and for the most part felt like I was treated like complete shit.  There were three people, who didn’t even say a word to me.  Wait, I take that back.  When they left, one of them turned to me, and informed me that the dress I was wearing made me look pregnant.  Of course, I didn’t mention that he’s looked six months along for the last 20 years.

I guess I should have known better.  Within this same group, a baby was born last year.  I went out and bought some beautiful baby clothes, and shipped them off.  The grandmother of the baby, confirmed that the package was received, but never did I hear a word of thanks from the parents.  When I mentioned this, and the behavior at the barbecue, to my mother, she just shrugged and said, ‘you know how they are.’  

Again, I cry bullshit!  Just because I am related to these people, does not mean that I have to put up with their blatant lack of manners.  But, is also means that I have the choice of whether I want to spend time with them or not.   Right now I’m choosing not.  They make me feel judged, and even worse I feel like I’m judging them right back.  This really doesn’t matter, but they are all active members of “the church” and hold church positions.  The men even hold the priesthood (whatever that means).   I have no beefs with the Mormon church, but if this is how their members behave, then I sure as hell don’t want what they have.  Let alone spend time and all eternity with them.

Thanks for bearing with me on this one.  Obviously I had a serious vent, that I desperately needed to get out.

What’s New?

Long time, not post. I’ve ben in Utah for over a month. The first few weeks were very hard, and I was longing for my life in South Beach. Now, I’m adjusted, and everything is okay. Not great. Not lame. But okay.

My kitties are here with me, thank Gosh! As obnoxious as they are, they really have kept me sane.

As planned, I’m keeping things very simple while here. Most days, I work out in the mornings, hike in the afternoon, and got to AA meetings in the evening. This is a far cry from my life in South Beach, where I’m constantly dashing around like a chicken with my head cut off. When I return in October, I hope to take some of the simplicity back with me, to help balance out the non-stop “go-fest.”